Cohabitation. Yay or Nay.

Cohabitation. Yay or Nay.

It is no longer uncommon to see unmarried people who are in love live together without being legally married. In such relationships, the doors are always open. A partner can decide to leave or walk away from the partnership without a hassle since nothing legal binds them.
Those in support of this idea feel it would help to reduce the rate of divorce and separation among couples. They also feel that it helps individuals to make a better-informed decision about choosing their life partners.

On the other hand though, one may ask; What happened to going on dates and courtship?
What happened to go places together, hanging out together and doing things in common?
Aren’t these enough opportunity to get to know who or what kind of person you’re contemplating marriage with?
So, what say you?
Would you rather date the conventional way or rather live together till you decide to get married?

Are Examinations The True Test Of Knowledge?

Are Examinations The True Test Of Knowledge?

Exams! How the thought of it sends hearts racing.
At the beginning of the year, Singapore abolished writing of exams for children in primary years 1 and 2, while older students would enjoy learning in a less competitive environment.
For many, examinations are times of distress, headaches, and stress coupled with anxiety. For some, exams are just like everyday occurrences, no big deal.
The results of exams can be very surprising.

People who perform well in class activities throughout the term or semester may end up with poor grades.
Some others who may not have performed so well during the semester or term may come out in flying colors?
What could be responsible for such results?
For one thing, not everyone performs well under stress and some other people only cram books into their heads for the purpose of examinations and soon after forget all that was memorized.
The minister of education in Singapore stated that the reason for the decision mentioned at the outset is that “learning is not a competition”.
With this supposition, can we then conclude that examinations are a true test of knowledge?

If they are not, how then can students be best evaluated?
Hoping to hear feedback from you. Drop your comments below.

Damsel In Distress Or An Independent Woman?

Damsel In Distress Or An Independent Woman?

Women! One of life’s many complexities.
Understanding a woman has never been an easy task especially if there is an emotional attachment involved.
Some women are what we refer to as “damsels in distress” while others are independent and free-spirited.

A damsel in distress would rather sit still and be broke while looking beautiful than getting stressed up making money.

An independent woman, on the other hand, doesn’t mind getting her hands dirty just to make sure that she takes care of her needs without a man’s support.
Some men would feel more comfortable with a damsel in distress or needy females because they feel wanted and needed in such a company and makes them feel in charge.
Other men would choose an independent woman that can care for herself without seeking assistance.
Different strokes for different folks.
But what would you prefer? A needy and clingy companion or not?
Females, which of these personalities do you fit into?

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Capital Punishment. Yes or No?

Capital Punishment. Yes or No?

Ladies and gentlemen, there are crimes and there are crimes! There are crimes I have watched on my favorite crime and investigation channel which shook me till date. Still, there are worst crimes out there which has not been solved and which no one is strong enough to talk about.

In many parts of the world, capital punishment (death penalty) has been abolished. Still, many countries grant the death penalty to perpetrators of some gross inhumane offenses. Like me, Many people are against the death penalty. Why?

Gallows(death penalty)

Many reason that since two wrongs don’t make a right, killing people who kill people isn’t teaching any lesson. It only shows that it is okay to reciprocate with something worse or similar when wronged. They claim that gross wrongdoers no matter how hardhearted should be forgiven although with the punishment of a sentence which could help the individual change his or her life course. “Does not everyone deserve a second chance?” they reason. But come to think of it. If someone can go as far as killing another person due to anger, jealousy or pleasure, does that not show that all is not well in the head? I feel such individuals deserve to see a therapist and not a lethal injection. So to cut the story short, I feel that no human has the right to decide who lives or who dies.

The other side of the coin has boldly written on it, “an eye for an eye”. Many people reason that if someone cold-heartedly decided to take the life of another person for no reason, then that person deserves the same treatment. Keeping someone locked up in prison and feeding him or her daily for the rest of their life doesn’t teach them a lesson or serve as a deterrence to future criminals. Instead, it could motivate many people to consider taking this route to a good life too. Taking care of prisons which holds such prisoners are expensive and the money could be channeled to more productive things if they receive capital punishment.
But has the death penalty stopped the crimes in countries where it is still carried out? The answer is no.

Electric Chair(death penalty)

So which side do you take? Do you say yes to capital punishment or no? Drop your comments below.

Separation Or Divorce, Which To Consider?

Separation Or Divorce, Which To Consider?

No one prays to encounter any disturbing situation in life where s/he is made to choose between separation or divorce. But then, life is not a bed of roses. When push comes to shove, what happens?

Religiously, the bible mentions divorce a few times. That, it is accepted only on the basis of extramarital affairs.
What if the situation involved verbal or domestic abuse? What does the bible say?
As a Christian, do you face it head-on, remain in such abuse, hope for a change?
Or, do you say, “Enough is enough. I’m calling this marriage off before s/he kills me, and my kids miss me.”

Separation involves living in different homes from your spouse. It can be informal or legal. In some countries, it can be a formal end to the marriage.
On the other hand, Divorce is a legal dissolution of the marriage. It brings finality to it.

While considering which to go for in a dilemma, separation can be a good option, if there is a chance for reconciliation or restoration of the marriage. It can give time to think up and finalise decisions to end things or get back together. It is also an option, if the spouses have religious aversion to divorce.
Divorce can be considered, to rid off toxicity. This is when it is obvious that there is no redemption for the abusive spouse any time in the future. It can be a chance to start off after a failed marriage. It ends tension, and is a chance at happiness again.

Having said these, it’s not a one size fitsall situation.
What is your take?
When can separation or divorce be considered?
Should divorce be viable only on the basis of adultery?
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Prenuptial Or Not?

Prenuptial Or Not?

Prenuptial agreement : An agreement between intending couples on how property should be shared in the event of divorce or death. This agreement states who gets what and under what circumstances.
Prenups have gained grounds in many countries and have also been the center of many debates.

There are those who feel a prenup is an indication of material gain especially on the part of the partner who stands to gain more.
Its also believed that having “an agreement filled with terms and conditions” shows that the marriage isn’t built on love and trust.

On the flip side though, prenups have saved lots of people from messy and lengthy divorce proceedings.
Those in support if it reason that life happens, and it is not always going to be rosy in marriage, so why lose a partner and loose materially too?

Do you think that a prenuptial agreement is important in a marriage? Can we say that the pros far outweigh the cons? Drop your comments below